Jan, 13 2019

5 Tricks to Deal with an Introvert Partner

Author Aulia Meidiska

Do you know that generally there are three kinds of personality in this peculiar universe? First is ambiverts who are mostly all people in the world that. And based on what I search on Google (thank God you exist) ambivert is a person whose personality has a balance of extrovert and introvert features. So how to describe an extrovert and introvert? It leads to second and third kind of personality. An extrovert (again from Google) is an outgoing, overtly expressive person while an introvert is a shy, reticent person. Elaborating this now you [maybe] get an idea of what your partner’s personality is. And lucky you who are in a relationship with an introvert (which means you are an extrovert or ambivert) as this time I’m going to share you a hint of how to deal with an introvert one based on my experience.


Never ever cross his or her comfort zone

Introverts usually love to be in their comfort zone, in their lovely bubble. They will attack anyone who tends to pinch their bubble and try to let them out. Very defensive. So to deal with this is to accept and accept. You have to provide as much space as your partner wants. Never ever attempt to change your introvert. It most likely will end your relationship. On the other hand, when you show how acceptable you are with an introvert’s zone, s/he will slowly release her/himself and invite you inside.


Do not chain an introvert with your love

Yup, this point actually supports the first point. An introvert loves independence and freedom. Once you chain him/her (of any reasons), s/he will leave you for sure. Do not terror her/him with a lot of questions in a day. I know you are just trying to show your attention but they may see it as a jail, fencing him/her from their world. So relax, Lovers. The more you give him/her freedom the more s/he will stick with you.


Offer them some colors

I’m not saying that an introvert does not have colors in their life but most of the time s/he likes to do monotonous activities. S/he is not a fan of dynamic or crowd. So do not force him/her to be in a massive party or club. Offer him/her some other colors that s/he has not yet experienced but still place her/him in their pace. For example if your partner loves to draw, ask him or her for a spontaneous vacation bringing their drawing tools to (later) be used on the trip.


Do not demand them to be close with your friends

An introvert tends to have a smaller group of friends. S/he is not lively like you who can talk to any kind of people. S/he chooses his/her mates and s/he cannot connect easily as s/he will listen more than talk. So do not push him/her to adapt with your big circle. It is not going to work. Just understand that when you are with your friends, you are with your friends and your BF or GF does not have to be around them. S/he is special, not your casual friend. You will have to consent to receive that it is a definite normal to do.


Tagging your understanding all along

For you who may just start a relationship with an introvert, you have to comprehend the ultimate rule of dating him/her. It is to tag along your understanding toward their traits. It may be a bit difficult but if you really want your relationship to work you should do this. It does not mean that you have to sacrifice all the time. It just means that you need to be patient for a longer time to let his or her open their gate. An introvert usually opens less but s/he will reveal him/herself once s/he trusts someone to get his or her attention. And it takes time for sure. So hang there for a longer period than you usually do, okay?


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