In Indonesia, we may not be familiar with a Wedding Vow as every religion and culture has its own way to state the vow in a wedding ceremony. Everything is fixed, not able to change. But everytime I hear a wedding vow from a movie, my heart melts. A personal wedding vow to me is something pure, something deep coming from our heart to promise to our significant one about what we want to envision in our journey ahead. If you are with me, would you please take a look at these wedding vows from Hollywood movies and let me know which one is truly your favorite one!
The chemistry between Richard Gere and Julia Roberts in the 90s seems not arguable. In Runaway Bride, Ike Graham (Richard Gere) is a guy full of patience, waiting for Maggie Carpenter (Julia Roberts) to realize that she does not have to run from her wedding anymore. His proposal says:
"I guarantee there'll be tough times. I guarantee that at some point, one or both of us is gonna wanna get out of this thing. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I'll regret it the rest of my life, because I know, in my heart, you're the only one for me."
The era of The Notebook is the new era of romance, I might say. It somehow reflects our real life where relationships sometimes hit rock bottom, where a couple often fights over something they think it is not working, where external parts of them try to separate themselves, where they can move on after a breakup. Luckily for both, after a series of unlucky events, they were together until the death calls and summons them to pass away together, forever.
“So it’s not going to be easy. It’s going to be really hard. And we are going to have to work at this everyday. But I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday.” -Noah.
Who is not crying during The Vow? It is definitely harrowing to imagine someone we love just suddenly forget everything about us. And it tears apart when Paige instead remembers her ex rather than her husband Leo. Well, to reflect their love life before the amnesia we really have to remember what they say to each other that makes their love even stronger even in the later time Paige does not remember at all but they regain their feelings.
Paige: “I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not, to agree to disagree on red velvet cake, and to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home.”
Leo: “I vow to fiercely love you in all your forms, now and forever. I promise to never forget that this is a once in a lifetime love. And to always know in the deepest part of my soul that no matter what challenges might carry us apart, we will always find our way back to each other.”
When Harry Met Sally
From friendship turns into relationship. Is that you and your loved one? Well maybe you can adapt the words Harry say to Sally in When Harry Met Sally. Or...take a few cheat lines, maybe?
Harry: “I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.”
Silver Linings Playbook
They are both silly, they both do not admit what they feel to each other. But at the end they finally make a way for love, realizing that the three words: I love you is a sacred, magical words to undo any spells. And yes, here feminism takes it all. Pat Solitano is the one who confess the love and she does not feel ashamed at all.
"The only way you can beat my crazy was by doing something crazy yourself. Thank you. I love you. I knew it the minute I met you. I'm sorry it took so long for me to catch up. I just got stuck." - Pat Solitano
It takes three parts of this movie to finally see Celine and Jesse together. This vow uttered by Celine may not be a wedding vow as it tucks in the first movie Before Sunrise where they are not yet together and instead parts their own path. But maybe [maybe] this vow unconsciously ties them up to the future where they would never know that they would meet ever again.
"I believe if there's any kind of God it wouldn't be in any of us, not you or me but just this little space in between. If there's any kind of magic in this world it must be in the attempt of understanding someone sharing something. I know, it's almost impossible to succeed but who cares really? The answer must be in the attempt." - Céline
Illustration by @sabinaka